Keeping things together and healthy in any relationship is something that can be very difficult to manage. Whatever kind of experience you may have or not have in this area, it is something that you will find has a certain degree of challenge to it, and it might be that you need to think about how to approach it in advance to get it right. In particular, there are a few key rites of passage which you need to think about if you are to make sure you are approaching your relationship in the right way. In this article, we are going to take a look at these, so that you can hopefully appreciate what you should be doing in order to keep your relationship alive, healthy and as enjoyable as possible.
Moving In Together
Once you get to the point where you are moving in together, chances are you already have a pretty close and strong bond, and for that reason you know you are moving in the right direction. But this can prove to be a stressful time for many couples, even at the same time as being exciting and intoxicating. You need to make sure that you are doing everything you can to keep the arguments to a minimum and the understanding high, and that essentially just means you need to communicate well. You will each have your own specific ideas about what happens in a home, what kinds of rules need to be followed and so on, and it might take some time to make these two worldviews match up. In some ways, they might never do so, so it’s vital to simply ensure you know how to speak to each other and work together. That being said, also make a point just to enjoy yourself. This is an exciting time, and you should make the most of it.
You know things are serious when you start talking about engagement, or if it just happens as complete surprise to you. These days, a woman is just as likely as a man to propose, and of course if you are in a homosexual relationship then it could also be either of you to propose. Whoever it is, you will want to ensure that you are going to get it right. That is something that can be very difficult indeed to be sure of, and you might find that you need to plan it out for a long time beforehand to make sure all the elements are right. After all, it is not something that you want to rush and you want to be able to remember it as fondly as possible, so you should do whatever you can to make that happen. One of the most important parts of this, of course, will be to get the right right, as you want to make sure you get the gorgeous piece your significant other deserves. Get all the elements right, and you should have a proposal and engagement you can truly love.
If you do decide to get married, there is no surprise that this is going to be possibly the most major rite of passage you have as a couple. Everyone wants their marriage to go as to plan as possible, and the truth is that everyone is going to have to think about what they can do to make that a reality. Many couples find marriage difficult, and it is unrealistic to say that you should expect it to be a walk in the park. But it can be made easier by the simple use of open and honest communication, something which a lot of people find difficult but which is an essential ingredient in any healthy relationship. If you are keen for your marriage to last a long while, then you will want to think about also ensuring that you both allow each other the space to do what you want in life, whether that is in terms of career or whatever. This is the way of being together that allows for a healthier marriage, which ensures that you are going to be able to stand the test of time, and it is something that you should think about. As long as you work on your marriage together in this way, you should find that you can easily be together for a long time, hopefully for your entire lives.
These rites of passage are all important, and the more clear you are on how to make them work out, the better off you will be as a couple.
What do you think is the most important relationships rite of passage is? I’d love to know in the comments below!