If you feel that you and your partner have lost your passion, that your relationship is getting tedious, do not worry, you are far from alone. It is an entirely normal thing that happens, especially in long-term relationships.
Relationships are always fun and exciting at the beginning; they would not go anywhere if they were not. However, it is not sustainable to expect it to be all fun and games as time moves on. Work, money, children and other factors come into play, and with that becomes tiredness and a tendency to snap at one another and take each other for granted.
Being a little bored at times is not necessarily a bad thing. It can mean that you are comfortable and grounded and are in a relatively secure relationship. However, if things become dull and you no longer feel fulfilled, it is time to look at reconnecting with your partner, and that is what we are going to look at here.
Look after yourself
Before you start looking for problems within your relationship, take a look at yourself and make sure it is not a problem with you. Rather than feeling unfilled and bored in your relationship, are you sure that you are not feeling bored and unfulfilled in your own life? Make sure that you are taking the time to look after yourself, indulging in self care and taking up new hobbies.
Plan some excitement
Roll your eyes all you want at the idea of date nights, as promoted heavily by celebrities, influencers and women’s magazines, but the fact of the matter is that they DO work. They can bring back a bit of a spark and break up the monotony. Maybe you need longer than a night, perhaps you need to do some research into romantic getaways in Colorado with private hot tubs to really relax and reconnect with one another.
Remember what you fell in love with
Remember, you are with your partner for a reason. Something attracted you to each other in the first place, and made you fall in love with each other. Think about what that was. Hopefully, it is your situation and circumstances that have changed rather than who you are!
When we are in the honeymoon phase of a relationship, we are hugging, kissing, holding hands, making eye contact and telling each other you love them. However, as the relationship goes on, you can fall out of this habit. Try to get back into it. It doesn’t have to be long smooches, but simple gestures like touching their arm, a cheeky wink across the table, holding hands, putting your hand on their knee and a few kisses or ‘love you’ on the end of your text messages.
Relationships go through phases. They can be full of excitement and novelty, before easing off and becoming dull. Work through this phase, reconnect with each other and before you know it, you will be feeling fresh and fulfilled in your relationship once again.
What have you done to reconnect with your partner after you’ve had a rough patch? Let me know in the comments below!