It can be hard to come back to the dating scene after some time away from it. However, it might be that after a while by yourself, after your break-up has had some time to remain a part of your past but not your present, and when you might start feeling your confidence again, this can be a great thing to do. It’s no great flaw to want love or companionship in this life, so taking that first step out can be a courageous thing to do.
It can be hard for some to do this, however. Taking your first steps back into the dating scene is not always easy, not because it might have changed since you left, but because your skills and comfort on a date might not be what they once were. Should that stop you from dating, or is a date that you have to make too much of an effort for the only way forward? Absolutely not. With a little helpful and kind guiding advice, you’re sure to come back to the dating scene with a spring in your step. Here’s what that might look like:
Don’t Force It
A simple mistake that many can make when entering the dating scene once again is to rush things. We might think that we only have a short amount of time before we become too old and undesirable (which is absolutely not true), and this can weigh on our confidence. We might, after a time going through a rough breakup, absolutely desire the romantic honeymoon period that occurs when meeting someone and falling in love again. However, don’t force it.
Find someone who is good and worthwhile for you. Don’t be afraid or feel like a ‘failure’ if that takes some time to materialize. Better to experience 50 sour dates that go nowhere than one leading to another harmful, long-term experience. On top of that, don’t be afraid to be discerning. It’s okay to pass people up on their offers, to not go on another date, or to wait before getting intimate in any capacity. Remember your truth, and you’ll be much more successful in this field.
Let’s start by saying that you are absolutely fine the way you are. But if you feel as though you need an upgrade or to update your style, doing so before entering the dating scene can help you feel like a million bucks. You might repair flaws through cosmetic dentistry, hit the gym, or simply shop for tailored clothing that helps compliment your frame much more appropriately. When you update yourself in this capacity, you not only feel great, but you can use this as a milestone to move on from your previous self.
Dates are not some grim responsibility to be carried out, perhaps with the reward of love or pain. They should be fun! They are entirely optional. You don’t need to attend them. Simply spending time enjoying them, suggesting places you want to go, or having fun can be a great date experienced, even if it goes no further than this.
With this advice, we hope you can take a stronger step back into the dating scene. We know you deserve it in every way.
What steps do you take when you get back into the dating scene? Let me know in the comments below!