Sometimes in relationships, life can get in the way. The stresses and strains of everyday life can often cause tensions where they needn’t be any. Time spent together soon becomes time wasted arguing, and both of you will be thinking that the other one has fallen out of love.
It’s a familiar and heartbreaking story; relationships hit rocky spells all of the time. But, it doesn’t have to spell out the death of your love for each other. Many bonds can be saved if you can work at them before you both admit defeat.
Here are a few ways that you can look at rebuilding the gap that may have formed between you so that you get to find the happiness that you have lost in your life.
1. Talk About It
The first thing that needs to happen is that one of you will need to open up about how you feel. Try not to be judgmental, or to cast the blame onto the other person. Often in relationships, the divisions come as a result of both parties pulling in opposite directions out of fear and neither is truly to blame.
Frame your conversation in a positive light so that your partner does not feel as though it is character assassination. Talk about how you want to mend the relationship and try to look for common ground so that you can do that.
2. Find Small Ways To Connect
Playing board games together can be an excellent way to connect. Often problems emerge where both partners spend their nights separately sat on their phones. Why not connect over a game of scrabble? And, if you need help to make your moves visit unscramble.
Spending quality time together is important. It might take a while to find your natural sense of joy together again, but if you are patient, the sparks will slowly start to come back.
3. Remind Each Other Why You Fell In Love
Take a trip down memory lane together. Look through old photos and talk about the things that attracted you to each other. What qualities did you love about each other at the start of your relationship? Talk about your happiest memories together. Remembering these times is important as you will both have fond memories together, but you may have suppressed them.
Jogging your memory will remind you of how you were, and it will prompt you both to try and get back to that way of being. It might be that you need to re-engage with things that you used to do together or visit some familiar places.
4. Consider Counseling
Couples counseling is not just something that couples that are divorcing do. Learning to connect again can take time and patience, and you may need the help of someone that can get you talking to each other. Often the focus of these sessions is about learning to really listen to your partner so that you can understand how they feel. Having a better understanding of each other’s feelings is vital in building that bridge between you.
What are some ways you have saved your relationship? Let me know in the comments below!