Navigating life’s complexities isn’t simple. Most of us have at least one major issue in our lives that stops us from getting where we want to be. And some of us have several things that are getting in the way.
Part of the problem is that we’re quite scared of change. We know that it’s necessary for our wellbeing. And yet, we’re often unwilling to do it, for fear that things could go seriously wrong.
Nowhere is this attitude more apparent than in our clothing choices. Many of us will wear the same style of clothes for decades, never changing how we appear. What’s more, we will feel a sense of trepidation stepping into a clothing store and trying on anything remotely different, let alone buying it.
This feeling, though, isn’t natural. The average human being is a curious entity, continually looking for novel experiences and ways to express themselves. Nobody wants to feel like they’re stuck in a box, doing the same thing day after day. They need to feel like there’s some progress in their lives for them to feel real.
So we have a paradox. On the one hand, we feel emotionally unable to change our style in any radical sense of the word. And on the other, we know on an intellectual level we must, to maintain our sanity. It seems like we’re stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Embracing Change Is Scary
When it comes to embracing change, it’s scary. We like what we know. And we fear what we don’t. The reason we feel fear when we consider changing our wardrobes isn’t the clothes themselves. They don’t matter at all. What we care about is how other people will react. We don’t know if they’ll approve.
That’s the real issue at stake here. It’s not whether it will look good: people have worn all sorts of crazy things throughout history. It’s whether we will fit in and be accepted by our peers.
Embracing Change Leads To Changes In Your Life
That same fear – how other people will perceive us – though, is the fundamental reason why style changes alter your life trajectory. Like it or not, people read into them and use them to take shortcuts to describe who you are.
So what changes can you expect if you change your style? And how might it affect your life?
First and foremost, changing your fashion style can dramatically affect your work prospects – perhaps more so than in any other arena.
Secondly, altering your clothes and accessories can affect your romantic relationships. Suddenly, people who would have ignored you before perk up and begin paying attention.
Thirdly, it can affect how you feel on the inside. It can be a nice feeling wearing clothes that reflect the person on the inside, instead of just something generic.
What To Wear To Change Your Life
So, with that said, what should you actually wear to change your life?
The first step is to choose something that helps flatter you. It could be something like wearing boho rings on your fingers or buying a confidence-inspiring jacket. Ideally, you want clothes and accessories that help to showcase you in a new light. It should be radically different from what came before.
The next step is to ensure that it all makes visual sense. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where your style choices look disjointed and unrelated to each other.
Finally, you need to test drive your new look by gathering feedback and getting a sense of what people think.
The effect of style on how people perceive you can be quite dramatic, and you may not be ready for their reactions initially. You may notice small changes in how you’re treated when you go through the checkout or when you’re at a social gathering. These little affirmations can give you the confidence to stick with a new look and run with it, even though you’re conscious of the fact that people you’ve known all along will notice the change.
In summary, life’s too short to worry endlessly about what people think. That’s why you should experiment with new styles. It can profoundly affect how people perceive you the first time you meet them and shape the relationship from that point onwards.
You might not have a lingerie-model body, but that doesn’t mean that your style choices won’t have an impact. Ultimately, you’re free to decide what you wear. Don’t let fear hold you back.
Have you tried changing your style to change your life? If so, I’d love to hear about in the comments below!